What is Boundaries?
NDSU Extension developed Boundaries to offer research-based programming for parents/caregivers and youth related to rule setting.
Boundaries Jr. is available for younger youth who are in grades three through six and their parents or caregivers.
Parent/caregiver and youth participants will:
- Recognize why boundaries are important
- Understand how boundaries reflect personal values
- Identify negotiable and non-negotiable rules in their lives
- Work through disagreements with authority figures respectfully
What does Boundaries Include?
The interactive program includes videos, homework, and hands-on activities to encourage learning for parents/caregivers and youth.
The program includes five weeks of material:
- The first two weeks focus on the need for boundaries and understanding how and why rules are set in different contexts and environments. During the first two sessions, parents/caregivers and youth are together.
- During weeks three and four, youth and parents/caregivers are in separate sessions. Youth focus on Working Alongside Authority and Setting Their Own Boundaries. Parents/caregivers learn about Parenting Styles and Setting Rules for Youth.
- The final week includes a lesson on setting rules and boundaries as a family.
The core concepts from which Boundaries was developed include:
- Rules and procedures refer to stated expectations regarding behavior (Emmer, 2006).
- Boundaries/rules are a reflection of values of family, school, faith communities and organizations.
- A youth's job is to push boundaries; the parents'/caregivers' job is to set them.
- Youth come face to face with their parents'/caregivers' values. Their decision is whether to incorporate those values into their lives as they grow (Walsh, 2007).
- Adults also follow these concepts in new relationships and work settings.
Participation in Boundaries will teach parents/caregivers how to use boundary setting to:
- Avoid conflict with youth
- Encourage responsibility and self-management
- Resolve problems
- Prevent pointless, frustrating, no-win power struggles
- Establish a foundation of mutual trust, consideration, and respect
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