What is Boundaries?
NDSU Extension developed Boundaries to offer research-based programming for parents/caregivers and youth related to rule setting.
Parent/caregiver and youth participants will:
- Recognize why boundaries are important
- Understand how boundaries reflect personal values
- Identify negotiable and non-negotiable rules in their lives
- Work through disagreements with authority figures respectfully
What does Boundaries Include?
The interactive program includes videos, homework, and hands-on activities to encourage learning for parents/caregivers and youth.
The program includes five weeks of material:
- The first two weeks focus on the need for boundaries and understanding how and why rules are set in different contexts and environments. During the first two sessions, parents/caregivers and youth are together.
- During weeks three and four, youth and parents/caregivers are in separate sessions. Youth focus on Working Alongside Authority and Setting Their Own Boundaries. Parents/caregivers learn about Parenting Styles and Setting Rules for Youth.
- The final week includes a lesson on setting rules and boundaries as a family.
The core concepts from which Boundaries was developed include:
- Rules and procedures refer to stated expectations regarding behavior (Emmer, 2006).
- Boundaries/rules are a reflection of values of family, school, faith communities and organizations.
- A youth's job is to push boundaries; the parents'/caregivers' job is to set them.
- Youth come face to face with their parents'/caregivers' values. Their decision is whether to incorporate those values into their lives as they grow (Walsh, 2007).
- Adults also follow these concepts in new relationships and work settings.
Boundaries Jr. is available for younger youth who are in grades three through six and their parents or caregivers.
Positive Outcomes of Boundaries
Participation in Boundaries will teach parents/caregivers how to use boundary setting to:
- Avoid conflict with youth
- Encourage responsibility and self-management
- Resolve problems
- Prevent pointless, frustrating, no-win power struggles
- Establish a foundation of mutual trust, consideration, and respect