Gender Pronouns

The Basics

Q: What happens if I use the wrong pronouns?
A: Say, "Whoops, I'm sorry," and then carry on with whatever you were talking about.

Q: Why should I respect other folks' pronouns?
A: You cannot know someone else's pronouns just by looking at them. Asking and using someone's pronouns correctly is a very basic way of showing you respect their gender identity.

Q: What is a pronoun anyway?
A: Any of a small set of words in a language that are used as substitutes for nouns (people, places, things, or ideas) where the meaning is understood in context

Useful Terminology

  • Cisgender (or cis): a term used to describe folks whose gender identity matches the sex they were assigned at birth
    • As a prefix in the Sciences, cis simply means "on the near side of" or "the same side"
  • Transgender (or trans): an umbrella term used to describe folks whose gender identity dose not match the sex they were assigned at birth
    • As a prefix in the Sciences, trans simply means "across" or "on the other side of"
    • Avoidusing transgedered. By adding the ed to the end of transgender, you change a noun into a verb, implying something has been done to a trans person to make them transgender. Transgender is not a verb; transgender is a noun and an identity. 
  • Non-Binary: a catchall term for folks who do not exclusively identify with either male or female

Gender Pronoun Guide

Subject Pronouns    

Object Pronouns    

Possessive Adjectives    

Possessive Pronouns    

Reflexive Pronouns    

(f)ae(f)aer(f)aer(f)aers(f)faerself
e/eyemeireirseirself
hehimhishishimself
perperperspersperself
sheherherhersherself 
theythemtheirtheirsthemself
vevervisvisverself
xexemxyrxyrsxemself
ze/ziehirhirhirshirself

Please note that (f)aer and its forms can be used with or without the (F). For example, ae | aer | aers or fae | faer | faers.


Collective Nouns: Gendered vs. Non-Gendered

Collective nouns are words used to describes groups of people. Often collective nouns are gendered, but they don't have to be. Below are some examples of gendered and non-gendered collective nouns.

  • Gendered: You Guys, Ladies and Gentlemen, Men and Women, Guys and Gals, Dudes and Dudettes
  • Non-Gendered: Folks, Guests, Y'all (or You All), Everyone, Friends, Team, Squad, Fam


Source: A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson (2018)

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