Gender Pronouns

The Basics

Q: What happens if I use the wrong pronouns?
A: Say, "Whoops, I'm sorry," and then carry on with whatever you were talking about.

Q: Why should I respect other folks' pronouns?
A: You cannot know someone else's pronouns just by looking at them. Asking and using someone's pronouns correctly is a very basic way of showing you respect their gender identity.

Q: What is a pronoun anyway?
A: Any of a small set of words in a language that are used as substitutes for nouns (people, places, things, or ideas) where the meaning is understood in context

Useful Terminology

  • Cisgender (or cis): a term used to describe folks whose gender identity matches the sex they were assigned at birth
    • As a prefix in the Sciences, cis simply means "on the near side of" or "the same side"
  • Transgender (or trans): an umbrella term used to describe folks whose gender identity dose not match the sex they were assigned at birth
    • As a prefix in the Sciences, trans simply means "across" or "on the other side of"
    • Avoidusing transgedered. By adding the ed to the end of transgender, you change a noun into a verb, implying something has been done to a trans person to make them transgender. Transgender is not a verb; transgender is a noun and an identity. 
  • Non-Binary: a catchall term for folks who do not exclusively identify with either male or female

Gender Pronoun Guide

Subject Pronouns    

Object Pronouns    

Possessive Adjectives    

Possessive Pronouns    

Reflexive Pronouns    


Please note that (f)aer and its forms can be used with or without the (F). For example, ae | aer | aers or fae | faer | faers.

Collective Nouns: Gendered vs. Non-Gendered

Collective nouns are words used to describes groups of people. Often collective nouns are gendered, but they don't have to be. Below are some examples of gendered and non-gendered collective nouns.

  • Gendered: You Guys, Ladies and Gentlemen, Men and Women, Guys and Gals, Dudes and Dudettes
  • Non-Gendered: Folks, Guests, Y'all (or You All), Everyone, Friends, Team, Squad, Fam


Source: A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson (2018)


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